A newspaper clipping of a matrimony advertisement from the Indian state of Bihar seeking a suitable match for an unemployed youth has created a social media uproar.
Many viewed it as not only sexist in nature but also objectionable for expecting bizarre qualities in the prospective bride, including patriotism, beauty, excellent cooking skills, wealth, and even a "desire to increase India's military capabilities".
Indian Hindu Brahmin looking for a bride who is an extremist yet compassionate, patriotic, powerful, rich, expert in child raising, military capabilities and an excellent cook.
— Jyoti Yadav (@jyotiyadaav) February 16, 2020
But he himself is unemployed right now.
- Via facebook pic.twitter.com/tvWc6Usg4M
The particular advertisement is being called out for different reasons: to begin with, the unemployed youth seeking a bride with as many qualities as possible.
A user tweeted in Hindi: "You will expect everything from a girl or you will also do something. At least drink a glass of water on your own".
Sab kuch ladki se hi expect karna hai ya khud kuch karoge.. khud paani ka gilaas utha ke pi lena bass. 🙏
— Priyanshi Shrivastav (@y_priyanshi) February 16, 2020
A lot of women in Indian families usually serve food and water to the rest of the family. A breadwinner man, bothering to help himself with a glass of water at times instead of asking the wife to do so for him, is used as a dig in families.
Presently not working But wants everything.
— Natthulal (मूँछ वाले) (@Natthulal_) February 16, 2020
Confidence level- Manoj Tiwari.
He is a born brahmin.
that should be enough.Another netizen took a dig by saying that his being a Brahmin, an upper caste as per the caste system, is enough.
— Mohammed Yaseen ياسين (@myaseenahmed) February 17, 2020
Peasently not working का मतबल है की अगर बिटिया के पास हॉस्पिटल है या उसको बनाने का इंतेज़ाम है तो बाक़ी सब मैच हो जाये गा।
— Misbahul Islam (@MisbahulIslam) February 17, 2020
The long list of expected qualities stated in the advertisement included the woman not only being from the same caste but also fair, beautiful, very loyal, very trustworthy, loving, caring, brave, powerful, and rich.
What the F will he be doing after marriage if the lady is going to manage the house, kids and the country 🙄🙄🙄 @pinkpaisley3
— yash (@yadsul) February 17, 2020
I guess he will have to marry his own shadow !! 🤣😂
— Sharad Kumar (@sharad_kumar01) February 16, 2020
Some netizens are also linking the man who placed the advert with Hindu organisations such as Vishwa Hindu Parishad and Rashtriya Swayamsewak Sangh.
😂 😂 I had to read 5 mins into the ad to know his parents were looking for a bride for him. Had i given up halfway my brain was convinced they were searching for a vacancy in VHP or RSS. Shukar hai last line mein girl bol diya. Warna i wud hv tagged @RSSorg @BJP4India @VHPDigita
— Sajeev Pillai (@batanahitochata) February 16, 2020
Very fair complexion, educated, who will increase India's military & sport capabilities by raising children & earning for home, apart from doing all household chores, & who will never ask for divorce' 😂😂
— Jaini /উজ্জয়িনী/ اجینی (@IchbinUjjaini) February 17, 2020
Bhagwat needs to preach hard. Guys are still looking for educated girls.
How can her bride increase India’s military & sports capabilities? I really want to know.
— Dinesh Bajaj (@DineshBajaj_) February 16, 2020
Along with all the other qualities, she should be an extremist but compassionate, an expert in child-raising, and an excellent cook from Jharkhand or Bihar.
look at the positive side "expert in child raising " that can mean he is willing to marry a woman who is already a mother .
— Anupama (@anujironi) February 16, 2020
🙄 progressive i say
Unless child bearing is declared an Olympic sport or gets a gallantry award for the maximum number of children given birth to.
— JorgéJakob (@vocalanesthesia) February 17, 2020
Some netizens suggested potential matches as well.
@Payal_Rohatgi will be a suitable match for him 😁😁😁 pic.twitter.com/qQQLaUFldY
— Dinesh Yadav (@dineshyadav1980) February 17, 2020
Yeh Sharmaji ki ladki dekhiye. Toh main ye rishta pakka samjhu. pic.twitter.com/bnvnt01m5t
— enviroguy (@enviroguy4) February 16, 2020
